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Tips & Topics

  • Create your phone number as a vCard with your name to send to shadchanim.
  • Remember to focus on the date and building or feeling out chemistry. The venue or activity is agav.
  • You don’t have to kill time with empty conversation. You could talk about tachlis without being vulnerable.
  • Had a bad date at an arcade? Don’t feel bad. It’s pretty common. Arcade dates are tricky and they don’t always work. This is also true with some day dates.
  • Even though you have to start a date with icebreakers, don’t forget to get back into tachlis. You could spend four hours of the date talking about ice-breakers if you don’t refocus.
  • It’s important to be in touch with yourself and know what you need before entering shidduchim.*
  • Walk slowly. She might be wearing heels.
  • Stay positive. A bad date isn’t always a dead end; your date might have a friend they think is a better fit for you. (It happens all the time)*
  • Make sure to thank the waiter, hold open the door, etc. on a date; it shows that you think about others. *
  • Sometimes you may judge what your date does as socially inappropriate, be aware that it may just be a gender difference.*
  • Be respectful the entire date, even if you feel that it may not work out. This person is still a human being and has feelings.*
  • Never say anything negative about yourself or anyone in your family. – Rabbi Avigdor Miller*
  • Daven for Siyata Dishmaya. – Heard from my mother*

*Taken from / based on rebbetzins.org

TOPICS

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CONVERSATION TOPICS:

  • Family
  • Grandparents
  • Uncles, Aunts, Cousins
  • Her job
  • Parents’ jobs
  • Community
  • Shul
  • Friends
  • Summers
  • Camp
  • Family trips
  • Seminary
  • Israel
  • Winter Vacation
  • Hobbies
  • Reading
  • Sports
  • Chasunas
  • Music
  • Instruments
  • shopping
  • late nights
  • house layout
  • Shabbos & Yomim Tovim
  • Birthdays
  • Presents
  • Driving
  • Chavrusa Tumult
  • Food in yeshiva
  • Favorite speakers
  • School/College
  • CORONA! (goes without saying…)
HASHKAFA TOPICS:

  • Technology
  • Internet
  • (Movies)
  • Fashion
  • Learning vs working
  • Daas torah
  • Kids going off the derech
  • English in Mesivta
  • Newspapers
  • Following sports
  • Money
  • Smoking
  • Drinking
  • Living comfortably vs Kollel life
  • How long you expect her to work
  • Chinuch
  • Your relationship with your parents/Rabbeim
  • Goals in life
  • What kind of work you would like to go into
  • What line of work she would like to go in to
  • Why you want to get married

4 Responses

  1. Smart phone, flip phone.

    Clothing one wears.
    Fitted clothing, more tznius.

    Brand name clothing or simple good looking clothing.

    Chol hamoed trips, and where they go for yommim tovim…

    And many more. List is great.

  2. If you know anything about Donald trump is your family into him are u republican or democrat in what ways is he good for Yiddin Israel or yeshivas and schools Taking money from government food stamps programs etc Is there a way to have a lot of money that it would only be a benefit and not get involved in too much of the gashmiyus and where would u put tzadakah in what organizations The maalos of in town and out of town What you gain from The exposure of eretz yisroel that you cant get america what types of things we can learn from different Yiddin in klal yisroel ex: like what can u learn from chasidim or Sephardim
    7.in seminary do they need to be teaching so much advanced Torah Whats considered a great rebbi What makes a school or Yeshiva considered a great place 10. What can protect kids from going off the derech Is it harder to be a good girl or a good boy What do you hold politically is there a shidduch crisis or theres no such thing Discuss health and ways of living ex: fast food, soda, coffee, restaurants, exercise

  3. Fwd: A list of discussions for 2nd date
    1. If you know anything about Donald trump is your family into him are u republican or democrat in what ways is he good for Yiddin Israel or yeshivas and schools
    2. Taking money from government food stamps programs etc
    3. Is there a way to have a lot of money that it would only be a benefit and not get involved in too much of the gashmiyus and where would u put tzadakah in what organazations
    4. The maalos of in town and out of town
    5. What you gain from The exposure of eretz yisroel that you cant get america
    6. what types of things we can learn from different Yiddin in klal yisroel ex: like what can u learn from chasidim or Sephardim
    7.in seminary do they need to be teaching so much advanced Torah
    8. Whats considered a great rebbi
    9. What makes a school or Yeshiva considered a great place 10. What can protect kids from going off the derech
    11. Is it harder to be a good girl or a good boy
    12. What do you hold politically is there a shidduch crisis or theres no such thing
    13. Discuss health and ways of living ex: fast food, soda, coffee, resturants, exercise

  4. Smart phone, flip phone.

    Clothing one wears.
    Fitted clothing, more tznius.

    Brand name clothing or simple good looking clothing.

    Chol hamoed trips, and where they go for yommim tovim…

    And many more. List is great.

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